An unplanned pregnancy can turn your world upside down, especially if you don't have the stability or financial resources for a baby. As the fetus grows inside of you, you have a few options to think about. Some parents consider adoption. Of course, the process of giving birth and handing over your baby to another family is intense. Here are some tips on how to prepare to give a baby up for adoption.
1. Learn the Facts
Sometimes, it can help to step back from the emotional aspect of the situation to look at it based on the facts. Here are some useful facts to consider if you want to give your baby up for adoption:
- The average middle-class family spends $12,980 a year on a child, not including the money it takes to support the mother.
- 81.5 million Americans have considered adoption, and 1/25 of American families with children have an adopted child.
- 40% of adoptions occur through foster care.
- 85% of adopted parents report healthy children.
2. Research Your Options
There are a number of options for parents who want to put up a child for adoption.
For starters, you have the option to choose between an open adoption or closed adoption. Open adoption means that you have the right to stay in contact with your child as they get older. Of course, you will not have any parental rights.
A closed adoption means that you will not stay in contact with your baby or the people raising the baby. While initially unappealing, many find it emotionally less taxing for them and less confusing for the child in the future to sever ties.
3. Develop a Support System
If you want to place your baby for adoption, anticipate the emotional repercussions of your decision. Even if you feel numb to the process at first, the emotions can creep up later. Establish a support system for yourself when you need emotional support. In many cases, you can find support from your friends and family. Alternatively, you can find support groups in your area and online.
Before you make any decisions, talk to your family and learn the about different options in your area. When you are ready to move forward with an adoption, speak to adoption agencies in your area for more specifics.
For more information about placing a baby for adoption, reach out to a local adoption agency.